In this episode…
If you’ve ever looked into Semen Retention, you’ve probably come across videos from both Johnathan and I. We both teach semen retention as a lifestyle, we both teach sexual mastery for men, and now we both even live in the same city! (Asheville, NC, USA).
So when we decided to make this episode, we wanted to make something unique for you. Not just another “how-to” guide… But something fresh. Something personal.
And I think you’ll really enjoy it.
- Non-ejaculatory orgasms
- Prostate orgasms
- The power of being single
- The alpha male vs beta male thing
- How the fear of vulnerability limits us
- How competition between men can limit us
- Personal stories from our own lives
- Sexual energy transmutation
- Keeping sexual charge alive in long term relationship
- And a quick note on our beliefs about aliens. 👽
🎙️ THE BACKSTORY:
A few months ago we met up for the first time, and ended up talking about sex & energy for hours. Everything from non-ejaculatory orgasms and qigong, to porn, viagra, prostate orgasms, aliens and everything in between.
During that conversation in a hot tub, while drinking Gynostemma tea and overlooking the Asheville mountains, we decided we wanted to collaborate. Last week recorded a Youtube Live together, and today we have this podcast to share with you!
If you enjoy it, please share it with a friend!
Sexual Kung Fu is more than just a catchy phrase (and the name of my friend Johnathan’s YouTube channel… it’s a practice that has been around for centuries, rooted in what some call the internal martial arts.
Sexual Kung Fu is about skillfully working with our sexual energy and life force for the sake of personal transformation and creating the life we want.
One of the main components of this practice is learning how to be intentional with the frequency and timing of our ejaculatory orgasms. Most men mindlessly release their sexual energy through excess ejaculations.
That’s a problem because if we’re always “recovering” from a recent ejaculation, we’re never actually living at a state of peak performance. The solution is to learn to control and redirect your desire, arousal and sexual energy for greater vitality, focus, and connection.
That’s the basic idea. And since Johnathan and I both teach this topic, our podcast today is going to be more of a casual conversation between the two of us – as compared with a how to guide for semen retention.
For the sake of simplicity, we’ll explore some of the main conversation topics in this episode below:
Non-Ejaculatory and Prostate Orgasms
To be clear, there are a bunch of different kinds of orgasms. Most guys think of just the ejaculatory orgasm… but there are prostate orgasms, non-ejaculatory orgasms, anal orgasms, nipple orgasms, energetic orgasms, and more…
But most men never experience these because their minds don’t even know that there’s another option. Ejaculatory orgasm is something we are taught as the primary goal of sex… once the guy finishes, it’s done.
Biologically, this makes a ton of sense – we literally need to ejaculate to create life, to build a family. But it also sends a potent message to our subconscious that we’ve completed our most important mission in life – procreation.
And that’s where the problem lies…
If you frequently ejaculate, not only are you telling your brain that you’re procreating dozens (hundreds?) of times per year, but you’re simultaneously telling your body that it no longer needs to perform or work.
Think about how you feel after getting off – your energy levels plummet, “post-nut clarity” happens, and all you want to do is lay around and eat some food. That’s perfectly okay from time to time, but to live a lifestyle like that will lead to a sub-par life.
Non-ejaculatory and prostate orgasms completely change up the sex game. Rather than viewing orgasm as a release, sexual kung fu teaches us to experience it as a way to circulate and transmute energy throughout our bodies. By learning to separate orgasm from ejaculation, you can experience heightened pleasure and connection without depleting your vital energy.
While I won’t dig too deep into the ancient Taoist tradition of semen ejaculation here, check out
- How to experience your first non-ejaculatory orgasm
- My ultimate semen retention guide
- A podcast where I talk about the first one I ever had
It is NOT one you want to miss.
Prostate orgasms are a bit different from non-ejaculatory orgasms. You can still ejaculate from having a prostate orgasm, but the sensation is just… different.
By stimulating your prostate gland, located in your anal cavity (in the same position as where a g-spot would be inside a vagina), you can experience powerful, full-body orgasms lasting for minutes or even hours. Crazy, right?
For some men, this may be a new and even intimidating experience, but with practice and patience, it can become a powerful tool for personal growth and transformation. Check out my list of best anal toys for men that can help you with this.
The Power of Being Single as a Man
Another topic Johnathan and I dug into in this podcast episode is our romantic and sexual relationships. Men are often conditioned to view our worth and identity through our relationships with women.
One common and unfortunate societal message is this: the hotter the woman (or partner), the more worth we have. And, another common message is this: if you’re single, then there’s something wrong with you.
By intentionally embracing single life and focusing on your own personal growth for a certain period of time, you can cultivate a foundational sense of independence and self-reliance that can enhance all aspects of your life.
I want to make it clear; this isn’t me telling you to give up on relationships.
But it might be best to approach them from a place of inner strength and self-awareness that you have cultivated BEFORE getting into a new relationship.
While cheesy, the age-old adage of learning to love yourself before learning to love another is pretty true. A conscious relationship where both people join with sovereignty and autonomy is significantly more fulfilling and rewarding than one created from a lack of abundance.
Does Being an “Alpha” Actually Mean Anything?
Let’s take a closer look…
The concept of the alpha male has been popular in recent years, with many men striving to embody this archetype in their personal and professional lives.
However, the idea of an alpha male as a dominant, aggressive, and hyper-masculine figure is not only limiting to who we are, but also completely inaccurate.
True strength and leadership come from a place of inner integrity and alignment – rather than external displays of power or dominance.
Instead: Work On Yourself
So, rather than striving to be an alpha male, why not focus on being the best version of yourself that you can possibly be? Work to embody qualities like empathy, compassion, authenticity, strength, and resilience. Cultivate your ability to communicate effectively, make money, be a good friend and learn how to lead others.
Doing all of that will put you into a small category of people that the word “alpha” is sometimes used to describe.
Mastering who you are, and being true to yourself, should be the ultimate goal. Don’t get attached to some ego identification of the term “alpha.” You can mimic someone else all you want, but until you are in alignment with the highest version of yourself… who are you REALLY?
Self-Limiting Beliefs in the Modern World
This is a section I really want to emphasize…
The central theme I’m trying to tie in all through this article, and this podcast episode, is that us as men have been taught certain ways to be and think, and we need to CREATE NEW WAYS of being in the world that break the problematic patterns we’ve learned from society.
From sex to our relationships, our own beliefs change so much of who we are and what we can become.
Connection with and mastery of ourselves should be our ultimate goal… figuring out where our most significant areas for growth are the best place to start.
The Fear of Vulnerability
One of the most common self-limiting beliefs we face today is the fear of vulnerability. And you might be wondering how this relates to Sexual Kung Fu… It does, because when you learn to harness, circulate and transmute your sexual energy, you become much more comfortable with vulnerability.
Men are often conditioned to view vulnerability as a weakness, equating it with being “soft” or “feminine.” We’re taught that opening up to somebody emotionally makes us weak and that it isn’t safe for us to do that…
Doesn’t that just restrict our ability to grow and connect with others on a deeper level?
Even deeper beyond our friendships, this fear of vulnerability can also lead to difficulties in intimate relationships, as men may struggle to express their true feelings and needs to their partners.
If there’s anything you take away from this article… embrace vulnerability and learn to communicate authentically with others. Check out the podcast I did with Steve Torma on how to be a more effective communicator.
This will help you develop deeper connections and experience greater fulfillment in your personal, romantic and professional lives.
Competition With Other Men
Another self-limiting belief that many men face is the idea that we must constantly compete with other men to succeed. Take this podcast for example. Johnathan and I teach on the same topics.
One option would be to avoid connection with each other because we’re in “competition.” The better option would be to build a friendship and working relationship that combines to support the lives of even more people around the world. You can hear us talk about this competition piece in this podcast.
And to tie this all together…
Playing sports in grade school was fun, and it gave us a place to flex our internal competitive drive with other people. Competition CAN be healthy. To get into college or even get a job, you have to compete with other people to be “better” than them.
There’s nothing inherently evil about this…
But we do need to be aware of any hyper-competitive mindset we might fall into, because ultimately that would be very counterproductive. Always being in competition leads to feelings of isolation, stress, and burnout.
Instead… Focus on Collaboration
Instead, try shifting your focus to collaboration and cooperation, and build stronger relationships with other men. The lone wolf archetype is cool and all, but we’re all stronger together.
Here’s another cheesy adage for you… by recognizing that we are all in this together and that we can all benefit from supporting one another, we can break free from the endless cycle of competition and experience greater fulfillment and success in all areas of our lives.
Sexual Energy Transmutation
This is one colossal topic Johnathan and I really dug into in the podcast, and I’d highly recommend checking it out to get a more in-depth understanding of what exactly it means. But to make things easy…
This practice involves harnessing the energy that is generated through sexual arousal and channeling it into other areas of your life. This process usually starts through semen retention, and man is powerful.
The levels of creativity, productivity, and personal growth you can achieve by transmuting your energy is… incredible. By learning to control and direct your sexual energy, you can cultivate greater self-awareness, focus, and power and experience a deeper sense of connection with who you are.
Through practices such as semen retention, non-ejaculatory orgasms, prostate stimulation, and working with the microcosmic orbit, you can learn to harness your sexual energy and channel it into more productive and fulfilling pursuits.
Rather than simply expending this energy through ejaculation, you can convert this drive into creative projects, professional endeavors, and personal growth.
Transcendental Sex Meaning
This last topic is not something we directly mentioned in the podcast, but it’s in the same exact realm of what sexual transmutation is.
Transcendental sex refers to a type of sexual experience that goes beyond physical pleasure and satisfaction (like ejaculatory orgasms) and leads to a more profound sense of connection with yourself, your partner, and the universe as a whole.
This sounds cool and all, but what does “transcendental sex” even mean…?
Instead of focusing on the typical end goal of ejaculating, this type of sex involves a heightened level of awareness, presence, and intentionality and can be achieved through various practices such as mindfulness, tantra, and sexual energy transmutation.
I’m not talking about edging yourself – I’m talking about slow, deep breaths, looking into your partner’s eyes, being vulnerable and letting your body take you where it wants… it truly is transcendental.
Where to go from here (Resources)
To get real benefits from being more intentional with your sex life, you have to actually do it. Most guys think that just intellectually learning something will create changes in their life, but that’d be like reading three books on how to work out at the gym and then expecting your muscles to be bigger.
You have to actually do the work.
Semen Retention Trainings
I recommend starting with either my FREE 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge OR, if you want a more potent introduction, start with my Semen Retention Foundations Course.
After you complete either one of the above, the Semen Retention Mastery journey is a powerful choice for any man who is ready to build their life force and use it to take action to create the life they want. It’s a 21-day in-depth training that takes you deep.
Ejaculation Control & Orgasmic Mastery
If you want to last longer in bed and learn how to control your ejaculatory reflex, my Free Ejaculation Control Guide is a great place to start.
After that, you want to completely transform and become the best lover you can possibly be, the Orgasmic Mastery Course is the journey for you.
Additional courses and resources
- Unlocking the Root: The Ultimate Course on Anal Sex
- Ecstatic Lovers Course for Couples
- My Podcast: Sex Upgraded
- My Youtube Channel
- My Instagram
And please know that it IS possible for you to create the sex life you want. I went from struggling with premature ejaculation, porn-induced erectile dysfunction, low sexual confidence, low self-worth, and more… to being in an amazing relationship and thriving sexually. If I can do it, you can do it too.
My mission is to help you. Thank you brother for being here. Let me know how I can help.
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