Have you read this book?
There’s some great stuff inside, but the words “multi-orgasmic man” can be misleading.
Truth #1: No matter how hard you try, you’re not going to be able to have 5 ejaculatory orgasms in a row and keep having sex. I don’t care if you’re only 18 years old… The refractory period is real.
To be clear, nobody’s saying this is possible, but the words “multiple orgasms for men” have lead many to believe it might be. These words are all over the internet in videos, articles and trainings, and I have yet to find something that clearly defines what’s going on… so I wrote this.
If multiple orgasms for men aren’t possible with the typical ejaculatory orgasm, then what’s the logical alternative?
Orgasm Without Ejaculation
It is absolutely, 100% possible for you to have multiple orgasms without ejaculation. I can tell you this from personal experience. BUT that leads right into the second truth:
Truth #2: An orgasm without ejaculation is NOT going to look or feel like the ejaculatory orgasms you’re used to. You’re not going to get the intense 7-second rush of genital contractions over and over again. This is where there is a fair amount of misunderstanding…
I’ve seen a bunch of claims that you can have the exact same orgasmic experience you’re used to with ejaculation — just without the ejaculation. This is not accurate, and semantics are important.
This is the back cover of the Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia:
“Learn to separate orgasm and ejaculation!”
It sounds so simple… and it’s a bit misleading. Instead of saying “learn to separate your orgasm from ejaculation,” it should say this:
“Learn a new way to orgasm that that will feel 20 times better than any ejaculation you’ve ever had, and prepare to put in at least 2 months of consistent effort to reprogram your entire sexual response system to actually be able to experience this new kind of orgasm without ejaculation.”
When you experience an orgasm without ejaculation for the first time, it’ll probably blow your mind. It can feel way BETTER than the typical ejaculation, and you will experience ZERO refractory period afterwards.
That’s right, you can keep having sex, and increase the total amount of pleasure you’re experiencing with your partner.
I like graphs, so…
Here’s the “Orgasmic Potential” graph from the Multi-Orgasmic Man book (he mostly gets it right), and there are three observations I’d like to make…
Observation #1: Notice where line B (multiple whole-body orgasms) splits from line A (Ordinary “Big Bang” ejaculatory orgasm). It goes UNDER the point of no return, and then rises higher, higher and higher.
To get to multiple orgasms, you bypass ejaculation, ejaculatory contractions and the refractory period associated with that kind of orgasm. You bypass this so you can experience MORE PLEASURE.
Hopefully you’re getting the point by now. As a man, when you have multiple orgasms without ejaculation, these orgasms feel different from what you’re used to. So…
That leads us to this question:
What does an orgasm without ejaculation feel like?
I recently surveyed everyone who follows me on Instagram, and received hundreds of responses. (THANK YOU!) Here are a handful of responses from men who have experienced orgasm without ejaculation:
“Shuddering waves of pure bliss. Tactile and palatable. Like I could ride that wave forever.”
“It was a full body experience, like my whole body was tingling especially around my lips and hands. Lasted 5 whole minutes. I felt very energized.”
“It feels like I was floating with this never ending sense of ecstasy.”
“Electric tingling sensations starting in the core and erupting down into the toes and into the top of my head. Leaving the head feeling like a pressure has been released and then relaxed all over the body.”
“Amazing…energy waves rippled up through my body.”
“I love orgasms without ejaculation. They feel like extended ejaculatory orgasms that are not as climatic. The length of them though makes them incredibly enjoyable. I feel vitalized and charged by them, and not depleted. It makes me want to stay engaged and connected to my partner. After, I feel satisfied and energetic, potentially eager to re-engage sexually or in other ways”
“I felt like a bolt of lighting went thru my body. I shivered. Felt the hairs on my neck stand up. It was quite refreshing.”
“I experienced it full body. It felt as I was ejaculating with no projectile. It lasted a longer amount of time, 5–7 minutes. Afterwards I felt rejuvenated, empowered, and present.”
Sounds very different from the typical 7-second ejaculatory orgasm eh? It’s delicious, can go on for a long time, and because there’s no refractory period you can have orgasm after orgasm after orgasm.
That being said, here’s something to watch out for:
Out of the hundreds of men I’ve talked to about this, many said they were able to have an orgasms without ejaculating. Something else was happening for these men though…
After talking with them for a bit it became clear that they were actually ejaculating and using a dangerous technique to forcefully divert their semen up into their bladder instead of out through their penis.
Which brings us to observation #2…
Observation #2: The Finger Lock Technique is Dangerous
Observation #2: The finger lock technique mentioned in this graph is dangerous for your health, and here’s why. When you get to the point of no return and you employ the finger lock technique, you’re still ejaculating… but because of the pressure on your perineum & tubes inside your genital region, your ejaculation is forcefully stopped and diverted into your bladder instead of leaving your body through your penis.
This is called a retrograde ejaculation, and it puts immense amounts of pressure (literally) on the inner workings of your reproductive system because you’re ramming your fingers into a vulnerable part of your body. You don’t want that…
Here’s a closer look with some edits I put in…
This practice is basically “cheating,” but if you do it you’re cheating yourself more than anyone else. There are other methods to stop yourself from ejaculating (so you can last longer in bed) that are much better for your health. If that interests you, check out the guide I put together here: How to Last Longer in Bed
Evidence of retrograde ejaculation:
- If you experience loss of erection after your orgasm, then chances are you’ve had a retrograde ejaculation.
- If you’re really curious, you can try peeing in a glass cup immediately after you have an orgasm, and if you see any whispy or milky fluids in your urine, you’ve had a retrograde ejaculation.
So what happens if you make love for hours and don’t ejaculate? This question brings us to the 3rd observation…
Observation #3: This is Sexual Energy Transmutation
If you make love, have multiple orgasms, close your lovemaking session without ejaculating, AND integrate your increased energy into your body in a healthy way, you will experience all kinds amazing benefits in your life and relationship(s).
This is sexual energy transmutation → changing your aroused sexual energy into another form of energy you can use to fuel whatever you want. And when you have multiple orgasms, you need to transmute your energy!
This is why the practice of Semen Retention exists. The basic idea is that excess ejaculation can harm your life, but if you’re intentional with your ejaculations and sexual energy, you can supercharge your life.
It’s essentially a modern take on the ancient wisdom of Tantra/Yoga and Taoist Sexuality. If you’d like to learn more about that, check out my practical Semen Retention Guide.
Want to go deeper?
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Multiple orgasms for men are possible.
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- Why or why not?
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