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In this episode…

How do pornstars last so long?

Is porn fake?

How to break the cycle of performance anxiety

What happens behind the scenes of porn?

Introducing Erik Everhard, a Male Pornstar turned Men’s Coach…

Erik Everhard has over 20 years of professional experience as a male porn star, and he estimates that he has had sex with over 5000 women. Throughout his journey he learned a lot about sex, how to last longer, how to overcome performance anxiety and how to get an erection anytime without viagra.

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This is my favorite episode of the podcast so far. We go places I’ve never gone in conversation before. After all the porn I’ve watched in my life, and my own personal struggles with porn addiction, it was a great learning experience to have a conversation with someone in the industry. Someone who was probably in at least one porn video that I masturbated to when I was younger. Statistically, it has to be true.

We go into a lot of fascinating topics, and while I suggest listening to the whole episode, I’ll share some of the main topics below:

How do Pornstars Last So Long?

This is a question I asked many times throughout my earlier years of watching porn, especially because I used to struggle intensely with premature ejaculation. It seems like male pornstars last forever, and it turns out, most of them can (and have to so they get their paycheck).

In this interview I learned that it’s common for porn shoots to last for up to 3 hours or more! That means male pornstars have to be able to last for hours, on command, and have to be able to ejaculate whenever the director wants them to. That’s a super high level of sexual control that requires some serious discipline.

You’ll hear some of Erik’s mental ejaculation control techniques in this episode. And you’ll also hear his opinion that you just can’t overcome biology sometimes. Interesting stuff.

Is Porn Fake? 

Absolutely. Porn is definitely fake, but it’s a whole new level of fascinating to hear Erik talk about just how fake porn actually is. In this episode you’ll hear about times on porn sets where the male and female pornstars were incredibly pissed at each other, but had to have sex anyways. They had to act/appear like they were in pleasure and loving it for the sake of the camera, and for their paychecks. 

In porn you never see all the prep that goes into a scene. You never see the conversations that happen beforehand, and you never see the negotiation of what sex acts will be done. For example In the realms of anal sex, most porn videos go straight to full penetrative anal sex without any prep at all. They simply don’t film the 20+ minutes of prep time the actor(s) have to do to use their fingers and anal toys to open their bodies enough to receive anal.

And with the average shoot time being at least 3 hours, and most porn videos today being less than 10 minutes, you’re only seeing a maximum of 18% of what happens during that porn shoot. If a porn video is only 5 minutes, that means you’re only seeing a maximum of 9% of what happened on that porn shoot. And remember that they’re acting anyway.

How to Break the Cycle of Performance Anxiety

Erik started working as a pornstar before viagra was a thing, so he needed to understand how to get an erection without any performance enhancing drugs. In this episode you’ll hear some great tips & techniques to overcome performance anxiety.

Apparently there used to be a mentorship thing that happened in the porn world, where the older guys would teach the younger guys how to overcome performance anxiety and get erections on command. That changed once viagra came on the scene. Now it’s estimated that 85%+ of male porn stars take viagra, or some other erection-enhancing drug. Some pornstars even get an injection in their penis to give them an involuntary erection for the duration of the shoot. Imagine that.

If you experience performance anxiety, Erik created a course to help you on your journey. It’s called Crushing Performance Anxiety, and even though I don’t struggle with this anymore, I plan to take it just to learn from what he has to offer. (Course link in resources section at the bottom of this page).

Is Porn Bad for You?

We finish the conversation with a philosophical inquiry into the impact of porn. Is porn unhealthy? Is it bad for you? Interestingly, we get to hear Erik’s perspective of the impact of porn on society in general.

My opinion? I don’t think porn is inherently bad or good. Porn just exists. It’s our use of porn that is the problem. And, the risks are very high with porn too. I like to think of porn as cocaine for your penis. Cocaine can be really fun, but it can also cause MASSIVE problems in every area of your life, very quickly. To me porn is the same, and if you’re watching porn regularly, I suggest that you take a break and enjoy the benefits of not ejaculating for 7 days. Watch what happens to your mind and entire nervous system.

This episode is one of my favorites so far. If you like it too, please share it with your friends. We all need to be having the porn vs reality conversation. 

Episode times & topics:

  • 03:51 How long do you have to last for a porn shoot?
  • 06:09 What would Erik tell his younger self about sex?
  • 13:00 Does sexual chemistry matter between pornstars?
  • 23:50 Mental performance & sexual performance
  • 32:15 How to get an erection anytime you want
  • 44:23 Presence is everything in sex
  • 48:50 The reality of anal sex in porn
  • 1:02:02 What is the impact of porn? Is porn unhealthy?

EPISODE MUSIC:
“Pink Dolphins” (Numatic Remix)
Written by: Tony Moss/Sunny Solwind/Shireen Jarrahian/David Brown
Remixed by: Numatic

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